Bring your best self to light - October 2007
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Getting through difficult times with grace
The last few months of my life have been some of the most difficult I have ever been through. However, somehow I've managed to get through them without inflicting permanent damage on myself or friends or relatives...<g>. To be honest, I've even surprised myself. I've been reflecting on what has helped over the past while and this is what I have come up with:
- Slack: Cut yourself and everyone else involved some slack. We all have different ways of coping and your time is better spent respecting that...acknowledging your own needs for rest and a break than tut-tutting about what others are doing. it's also important to notice that things may start to slip...my car is way overdue a service for example. But YOU WILL catch up with them.
- Friends and traitors: Be surprised by where support, kindness and friendship comes from...it'll be from people that you had not considered. Accept and appreciate it. There are the seeds of new friendships here. Be prepared to have a minority of friends/relations disappear. Again, they will be people you may think would have been rock-solid for you. Do not get hung up on these individuals..every time you feel the hurt and betrayal come up...think about all the support you *do* have. Consider booking a consciousness shifting session to help..the first one is a gift! (See below!)
- Finances: If you are self-employed, accept that your finances are probably going to take a hit. (Mine have). Make a conscious decision that your time will be spent with this ill person and trust that the money stuff will sort itself out..while at the same time doing what you realistically can do.
- No challenges . Now is not a time to take on big challenges. Do the work that needs to be done to keep your household running. Choose easy work that is well within your comfort zone. You have enough occupying your bandwidth besides adding a challenge to it. Make saying NO your default position until the situation is resolved.
- Take a break: There are times when I get really really tired of being a sick person's daughter. At times like that...do something totally different. Yesterday I got a free DVD of Talking Head's Stop Making Sense and put it on full blast for an hour and jumped around the room. I won't be on the X Factor in the next while (you'll be very happy to hear!) ..but I felt GOOOOD afterwards.
- Self-care is good for everyone: Take really good care of yourself...how are you going to be of more help and support..by cracking up in a heap..or doing what needs to be done to take good care of yourself..so that you can stay strong and support others and stay relatively cheerful and positive yourself...and remember if YOU don't look after yourself...eventually someone else will.
- Sense of humour: I've been given a rather black sense of humour and that has really helped during this time. It can help so much to see the lighter side of a situation.
- Change no decisions: Now is not the time to change any life decisions...such as changing your job, divorcing your spouse. Wait until the storm has passed and you can make decisions from a place of greater calm.
- Regular spiritual practice: develop some sort of regular spiritual practice. Even 10 - 15 minutes a day can make a huge cumulative difference. I know the difference between the days I honour this and the days I don't. Unfortunately the people around me often know it too!
Take Action!
- If you are facing a difficult personal circumstance...what do you need to let go of?
- How can you take really good care of yourself at this time?
- Let yourself take a break...it's better for you and the person concerned.
- Who can you ask for help? Be clear and specific about the help you want..people are generally eager to help.
- What can you let go at the moment???
Master Your Money
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Consciousness shifting
I've been offering complimentary sessions to all readers of this newsletter and you can read some of the testimonials here.
I've been getting great feedback on this work which I'm thrilled about and have decided to offer another complimentary day.
If you would like to book a complimentary session..
Here are the taster dates:
- Monday 29th October 2007 (new one!)
- Monday 19th November 2007
If you would like to book a slot contact my VA: Gloria Henning and she'll let you know what is available.
The next paid session day is Monday 22nd October 2007.
If you are a subscriber to this newsletter, the cost per session (the first one is free) is €65/GBP 45. If you are not a subscriber, the cost is €75/GBP 50. In both cases, payable in advance by Paypal (agwalsh@eircom.net )
In the spirit of letting things go....at least for the time being...this is the end of this month's newsletter!